An Open Letter to my Unborn Son.

Hi, little man. It’s me, your mom.

Today, you are 35 weeks and 3 days old. My OBGYN told me and your dad that in 2 weeks, you can come out in this world – I want you to know that we are ready when you are. We cannot wait to meet you.

At this point, I thought we had settled in with a name already. But last night, your dad told me he’s not quite into your name yet, which is a sucker because I’ve already written your name all over my journal. And so I need to think of another name again. But don’t worry and trust mom to come up with a name you can be proud of. 

Everyone’s excited to meet you – your aunt, my sister, bought you so many things from all over the world! She’s a flight attendant and any chance she gets, she’ll roam around the baby section and buy you something. You probably own more than what you need as a newborn. Your Lola, my mom, also bought you quite a few things for your newborn needs. Your education is also secured as early as now – we’ve already talked about the school you’re going to. And I bet your Angkong, your dad’s Dad, will spoil you so much as you are his first grandson. Unfortunately, you can’t meet Lolo and your Ama as they passed even before we had you. But I am sure they are happy in heaven! Don’t worry, we’ll visit them often so you can meet them.

You will also be born with fur siblings – you have Luca, our eldest furbaby, Suki, Lulu, and Bacon. We also have big dogs outside our house, so you’ll never run out of a playmate. Your Dad and I are thinking of having a swimming pool when you’re at the right age so you can swim with your fur siblings. You will have a happy childhood, that’s for sure.

As for me and your dad – I am not gonna lie but we’re both excited and scared all at the same time.. Sure, we are ready for you; We prayed for you. But no one and nothing will prepare us for something as great as you – our firstborn son.

Your dad is a great man. He’s a good provider and he loves and takes care of me all the time. I am sure he’ll be twice as great as a father to you. If only you could see his reaction when he found out we’re having you – which you will because I’ll show you the video.

I don’t know what kind of mom I would be – the strict mom or the cool mom? The good cop or the bad cop? The “magpaalam ka sa mommy mo” or “papayag ako pag pumayag daddy mo“? The “it’s okay basta hindi mo na uulitin next time” or “you’re grounded because…” You see, I don’t want you to be soft. We want you to grow up with respect to the rules and take responsibility of your own actions. I want you to know that rules and punishments exist not to make your life miserable, but to guide you in making decisions, and hopefully, help you make the right ones.

But regardless, we just want to be the parents that you need.

We will help you appreciate life and all the beautiful things it has to offer. We will let you see the world and meet its people. You’ll realize that no two people are the same and we are all beautiful in our own way. We will let you learn different skills and let you try different hobbies – but at the end of the day, it’s up to you what you like best and what you want to pursue next. But I promise you, we will give you all the options and all the opportunities you need to find your own person. We will not stop you from exploring your individuality, figuring out the things you like and don’t like. We will let you step on every stage so you’ll know where you’ll shine.

We will not give you the world, we will not shower you with material things, but we will spoil you with good experiences. 

Your Dad and I, we will not be perfect. So please understand that we are just learning, too. But no matter what happens, know that whatever we decide on doing is what is best and only the best for you. We will not see eye-to-eye all the time, but in this family, we value open communication. So I want you to know that there is a right place and time to talk about everything. And what’s good about us not being perfect is we will never judge you. We promise to keep an open mind and open heart, always willing to compromise and hear you out. We want you to be trusting and open, because we are the only people who will always want the best for you.

And above all else, we hope to teach you how to be a good man, to always practice kindness and understanding. We hope to teach you to treat everyone with respect, and try to see that everyone is trying to do the best they can.

I just know that we will be better people because of you, me and your dad. And we will love you the best way we know how.

I bet you look exactly like your dad. That’s okay, he’s a very fine man, your dad. You will see.

We will be waiting for you. 

Your best friend,
Mom.